Bounce
I see from visiting some of my dear friends blogs that I'm not the only one not getting on the keyboard much these days. Trying to find that balance :-)
For those who read Robin's blog too, I want to add my thoughts as well. I especially agree on a couple points; I do not in any way, shape or form think my children are idiots. I think they are bright and creative and have very special gifts of their own. I love spending my days with them - all 24 hours of all 7 days! Okay, there are a few hours that I must occasionally claim for myself to regroup and refresh but on the whole, I want to share this precious time with them that will pass all too quickly. Again, we have to find a balance. I do not consider myself a 'helicopter parent'. I would not want to be and I don't think helicopter parenting does them any favors.
I understand how frustrating it is to hear the suggestion that our husbands need a 'parade' to help them realize our appreciation for them. I think, perhaps, the other important element of that suggestion was missed. I understand it better because when I listened to it the first time I realized it was so true - we need to allow them to do what it is we're asking in their own way. There are few things more hurtful to me than when my husband would view the hard work I put into a project as not 'good enough' because I didn't do it the way he would have done it. He is a perfectionist, I am not. I do have my own way of performing my tasks and I really would love to have all my helpers do it the same way but that's probably not ever going to happen. So I need to appreciate their effort when they do try to help. I have noticed when I show appreciation for the effort, sincerely, the response is better and the moods are better.
I am very old fashioned in that I do believe there are jobs that more naturally lend themselves to women and others to men. There are times when one of us simply has more time, more energy, better health or more motivation to get things done and we usually balance each other out. When I am having a chain of bad days, he's there to cheer me and when he's having his chain, I'm there to cheer him - that's the way it works (well, most of the time...).
Comparing - never is a good thing! I have a jealous streak that has to be tamed frequently but it is usually my house! I do mean my house, not my home. I would not trade anything for anything either, except I want a bigger house. It doesn't necessarily need to be bigger - it needs to be more practical in its layout and use. I heard it said once that you should live in at least 7 environments before you decide on a long term home (retirement home). Well, I've live in a 'few' more than that and I can tell you the things we want that we don't have and the things we have and don't want! But that will have to be another post :-)
I'm off to the kitchen blog!
For those who read Robin's blog too, I want to add my thoughts as well. I especially agree on a couple points; I do not in any way, shape or form think my children are idiots. I think they are bright and creative and have very special gifts of their own. I love spending my days with them - all 24 hours of all 7 days! Okay, there are a few hours that I must occasionally claim for myself to regroup and refresh but on the whole, I want to share this precious time with them that will pass all too quickly. Again, we have to find a balance. I do not consider myself a 'helicopter parent'. I would not want to be and I don't think helicopter parenting does them any favors.
I understand how frustrating it is to hear the suggestion that our husbands need a 'parade' to help them realize our appreciation for them. I think, perhaps, the other important element of that suggestion was missed. I understand it better because when I listened to it the first time I realized it was so true - we need to allow them to do what it is we're asking in their own way. There are few things more hurtful to me than when my husband would view the hard work I put into a project as not 'good enough' because I didn't do it the way he would have done it. He is a perfectionist, I am not. I do have my own way of performing my tasks and I really would love to have all my helpers do it the same way but that's probably not ever going to happen. So I need to appreciate their effort when they do try to help. I have noticed when I show appreciation for the effort, sincerely, the response is better and the moods are better.
I am very old fashioned in that I do believe there are jobs that more naturally lend themselves to women and others to men. There are times when one of us simply has more time, more energy, better health or more motivation to get things done and we usually balance each other out. When I am having a chain of bad days, he's there to cheer me and when he's having his chain, I'm there to cheer him - that's the way it works (well, most of the time...).
Comparing - never is a good thing! I have a jealous streak that has to be tamed frequently but it is usually my house! I do mean my house, not my home. I would not trade anything for anything either, except I want a bigger house. It doesn't necessarily need to be bigger - it needs to be more practical in its layout and use. I heard it said once that you should live in at least 7 environments before you decide on a long term home (retirement home). Well, I've live in a 'few' more than that and I can tell you the things we want that we don't have and the things we have and don't want! But that will have to be another post :-)
I'm off to the kitchen blog!
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